THE IDENTIFIER | PEOPLE PLUS
RELATIONAL IDENTITY
EXPERIENTIAL DESIGN
YOU HAVE AN EXPERIENTIAL DESIGN | YOU ARE DRIVEN BY FULFILLMENT
RELATIONSHIP DEFINED
“You are drawn to connection that feels alive, safe, and emotionally real—not just correct or functional.”
You define relationships by the quality of emotional presence and shared experience they create. You naturally sense the emotional atmosphere of a connection, paying close attention to how it feels to be with someone rather than how it appears on the surface. You build connection through warmth, openness, and shared moments, trusting relationships that invite joy, authenticity, and freedom of expression. For you, a healthy relationship is one where emotions are welcomed, connection feels mutual, and you are free to be fully yourself; when a relationship becomes emotionally heavy, restrictive, or disconnected, you instinctively pull back to protect your sense of well-being. At your best, you bring empathy, presence, and joy into relationships, creating spaces where others feel emotionally safe, valued, and genuinely connected.
“You don’t define relationships by structure or explanation—you define them by how fully they let you feel alive.”
EMPATHETIC CONNECTOR
Genuine Connection and Emotional Investment
You thrive in relationships where connection feels real, mutual, and emotionally alive. You invest deeply in the people closest to you, cherishing shared experiences, conversations, and moments of emotional exchange. Your natural attentiveness and genuine curiosity about others make your relationships feel personal and meaningful. Affection and romance are important to you—not as performance, but as expressions of care that help love feel tangible and lived.
Trusted Confidant and Supportive Presence
Your ability to listen with empathy makes you a trusted confidant in many people’s lives. Others feel safe sharing their experiences with you because you offer presence without judgment and understanding without urgency. You are highly attuned to emotional cues, often sensing what someone needs before they ask. These small, consistent moments of care create deep trust and form the backbone of your long-lasting relationships.
Affectionate and Thoughtful Expressions of Love
Your love is expressed through thoughtful gestures, quality time, and emotional availability. You understand that love lives in the details—remembering what matters to someone, celebrating shared memories, and being present when it counts. By prioritizing connection, communication, and emotional openness, you cultivate relationships that provide both belonging and fulfillment, not just support in hard times but joy in everyday life.
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You make friends easily, but you are intentional about who you allow close to your heart. While you enjoy connection, emotional intimacy is reserved for relationships that feel safe, mutual, and sincere.
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You may be warm and friendly with many people, but only a few are invited into your inner emotional world where deeper sharing occurs. -
You listen deeply to others’ experiences, offering attention that makes people feel seen and understood. Your listening is not about fixing—it’s about being present.
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When someone shares something personal, you focus fully on them, reflecting their emotions rather than rushing to advice. -
Romance plays an important role in how you feel loved and how you express love. Thoughtful gestures and intentional moments help you experience emotional security and connection.
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A planned date, handwritten note, or intentional quality time means more to you than grand declarations. -
You take genuine interest in the details of the lives of those you are close to. Remembering small things is your way of honoring emotional intimacy.
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You recall important dates, preferences, or past experiences and reference them naturally in conversation, making others feel valued. -
You can have many friendships, each rooted in shared experiences, interests, or seasons of life. These connections don’t compete—they coexist, each meaningful in its own way.
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You may have friends connected to travel, creativity, work, or emotional support, each bonded through what you’ve shared together.
Who I Am in Relationships
I am a joyful + emotionally open person + I am creative & connection-driven + I bring life and light wherever I go
You approach relationships with a warm, inviting presence and an instinct to connect in ways that feel real, joyful, and emotionally rich. You don’t just interact—you experience people. You come alive when there’s space to be fully yourself, and you make space for others to do the same. You value honesty, affection, and the kind of emotional openness that doesn’t need to be polished or perfect. For you, relationships aren’t about performance—they’re about freedom, resonance, and shared humanity. You bring lightness to heavy spaces and depth to surface-level ones, always seeking to create environments where others feel both safe and alive.
What stands out most about you in relationships is your ability to blend fun with meaning. You’re emotionally expressive, intuitively tuned in, and sensitive to how others feel—even if they don’t say it. You don’t withdraw from emotion; you move toward it. Whether you're laughing over coffee or holding someone in a quiet moment of grief, you show up with presence and heart. You are the kind of person who reminds others how good it feels to be known, and how healing it is to be seen without condition. Your love isn’t just something you say—it’s something people feel in your nearness.
What I Need + Want in Relationships
I need emotional freedom + shared joy + authenticity + emotional presence + deep connection
You need relationships that honor your inner world—not just your thoughts, but your feelings, rhythms, and desire for emotional expression. You need the freedom to laugh loudly, cry freely, and change directions without fear of judgment. You don’t thrive in environments that feel emotionally cold, distant, or overly controlled. You’re not asking for chaos—but you are asking for space. Space to be you. You want companions who can join you in life’s wonder and mess, who know how to embrace the unknown and explore life without needing everything to be tidy or planned.
At the heart of what you want is realness—relationships where both joy and vulnerability are welcomed. You want someone who isn’t afraid of emotional highs or lows, who can be present when it’s fun and when it’s hard. You want shared experiences that matter, connection that feels alive, and a rhythm of give-and-receive that makes love feel mutual and nourishing. You crave affection, laughter, physical closeness, and soulful conversation—but even more than that, you want to be met with honesty and depth. For you, love is never just about what people do—it’s about how they show up and who they are when they do.
What I Love + Like in Relationships
I love shared joy + safe emotional spaces + deep conversations + playfulness + soulful connection
You love being in relationships where emotional expression is natural and welcome. You gravitate toward people who enjoy meaningful conversations, spontaneous adventures, and quiet moments of connection with equal enthusiasm. You’re drawn to shared experiences—cooking together, walking in nature, creating art, or just being side-by-side in restful silence. These experiences aren’t just enjoyable—they are essential to your sense of connection. You love knowing that joy is not only allowed, but actively pursued, and that you're with someone who understands the beauty of both freedom and emotional intimacy.
What lights you up most are moments that feel alive and present—when no one’s pretending, performing, or rushing through the connection. You enjoy laughter that bubbles up without effort, affectionate gestures that come naturally, and spiritual or creative expressions that connect you to something deeper. You like relational environments that honor who you are without needing to fix you or tone you down. When there’s mutual enjoyment and shared passion for life, you flourish. You don’t just like relationships that work—you love relationships that breathe.
What I Dislike + Hate in Relationships
I hate emotional coldness + control + surface-level connection + rigidity + being misunderstood
You struggle in relationships that feel emotionally closed off, overly structured, or overly transactional. When people avoid vulnerability, shut down their feelings, or expect you to suppress your emotional instincts, you feel invisible or rejected. You hate when others act like emotions are inconvenient or irrelevant, as if your deep sensitivity is a flaw. Being misunderstood—or worse, dismissed—cuts deep, especially when someone reduces your joy to frivolity or treats your desire for closeness as weakness. When you’re forced into relational boxes, you begin to shrink—and that goes against everything you’re wired to give.
You also have a strong aversion to control. Relationships that limit your freedom, demand constant emotional labor without reciprocity, or silence your creativity leave you feeling caged. You thrive in relational flow, not rigid systems. Pressure to conform or be emotionally “correct” drains your spirit. You dislike shallow conversations that stay polite but never go anywhere, and you push back against dynamics that prioritize image over intimacy. For you, connection is sacred—and when it’s faked, forced, or stifled, it becomes something to walk away from, not endure.
When I Show Up in Relationships
I bring my joy + presence + emotional depth + creativity + hope
When you show up in a relationship, you bring more than just good energy—you bring emotional richness and a gift for creating safe, joyful, and life-giving spaces. Your presence allows others to relax into who they are. You bring laughter that breaks tension, softness that disarms defenses, and insight that helps others connect to their truest selves. You have a way of making people feel not just accepted, but celebrated. You listen with your heart, respond with your soul, and offer love that is both free-flowing and deeply grounded.
You bring creativity—not just in how you express affection, but in how you solve problems, reframe pain, and make ordinary moments feel special. Your commitment to joy is not shallow—it’s spiritual, rooted in your understanding that life is meant to be lived fully. You love with intentionality and freedom. You’re not afraid of depth, and you never hold back from beauty. With you, relationships become more than functional—they become sacred experiences of being known, felt, and loved.
Emotional Landscape
Let’s take a look at the way you experience different emotions based on your design.
General Emotions everyone experiences
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Definition: For experiential designs, love is a vibrant and dynamic connection characterized by shared adventures, sensory experiences, and a deep emotional bond formed through shared activities.
Experience: You experience love when you find someone who enjoys engaging in new experiences and adventures with you, creating memorable moments together.
Reason: You experience love when you encounter individuals who share your enthusiasm for hands-on activities, sensory exploration, and mutual growth through experiences.
Message: Love tells you that your desire for adventure and sensory engagement is shared, encouraging you to seek and nurture relationships through shared experiences.
Example: You might feel deep love for a partner who joins you in exploring new places, trying new activities, and creating a life full of exciting adventures and experiences.
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Definition: For experiential designs, joy is a sense of exhilaration and fulfillment that comes from engaging in hands-on activities, sensory exploration, and immersive experiences.
Experience: You feel joy when you are fully engaged in activities that stimulate your senses and create meaningful, memorable experiences.
Reason: You experience joy from the excitement of trying new things, the satisfaction of completing hands-on projects, and the thrill of sensory engagement.
Message: Joy tells you that your active participation and sensory engagement are leading to fulfilling and memorable experiences, motivating you to continue exploring.
Example: You might feel joy when you complete a challenging DIY project, explore a new travel destination, or engage in an activity that fully immerses your senses.
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Definition: For experiential designs, sadness is a feeling of loss or disappointment, often related to missed opportunities for hands-on activities, unfulfilled sensory experiences, or disrupted plans.
Experience: You experience sadness when you miss out on activities you were looking forward to, when your experiential efforts don't lead to the desired outcomes, or when your sensory engagement is limited.
Reason: You experience sadness because your desire for active participation and sensory experiences is a significant part of your identity and purpose.
Message: Sadness tells you to reflect on what went wrong, understand the reasons behind the loss, and find ways to seek out new experiences and restore your engagement.
Example: You might feel sadness when a planned trip is canceled, when a hands-on project fails, or when you are unable to participate in an event you were excited about.
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Definition: For experiential designs, anger is a reaction to disruptions in your ability to engage in hands-on activities or sensory experiences, often triggered by boredom, restrictions, or obstacles.
Experience: You feel anger when you are unable to participate in activities you enjoy, when your sensory experiences are dulled, or when obstacles prevent you from engaging fully.
Reason: You experience anger because these disruptions challenge your need for active participation and sensory engagement, making you feel frustrated and restricted.
Message: Anger tells you that something is blocking your experiential engagement, prompting you to address the issue and find ways to restore your activities.
Example: You might feel anger when a planned adventure is canceled, when you are stuck in a monotonous routine, or when environmental factors prevent you from enjoying sensory experiences.
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Definition: For experiential designs, shame is a feeling of inadequacy or failure when you are unable to engage in hands-on activities or when your experiential efforts do not meet your own or others' expectations.
Experience: You experience shame when you feel that you have not fully participated in an activity, when your hands-on projects fail, or when you miss out on experiences.
Reason: You experience shame because your identity and self-worth are closely tied to your ability to engage actively and successfully in sensory and hands-on activities.
Message: Shame tells you to reassess your efforts, learn from your mistakes, and strive to improve your experiential engagement and skills.
Example: You might feel shame when a DIY project doesn't turn out as planned, when you are unable to complete an adventure, or when you feel that you haven't fully experienced an event.
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Definition: For experiential designs, peace is a state of contentment and tranquility achieved through engaging in activities that provide sensory satisfaction and hands-on involvement.
Experience: You experience peace when you are involved in activities that allow you to be present, focused, and connected to your surroundings.
Reason: You experience peace when your hands-on efforts lead to tangible results and when your sensory engagement helps you feel grounded and centered.
Message: Peace tells you that your experiential activities are creating a balanced and harmonious state, encouraging you to continue engaging in these practices.
Example: You might feel peace while gardening, cooking a meal from scratch, or participating in a relaxing sensory activity like painting or crafting.
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Definition: For experiential designs, confidence is rooted in your ability to engage in new experiences, tackle hands-on projects, and navigate sensory-rich environments successfully.
Experience: You feel confident when you successfully complete hands-on tasks, master new skills, and navigate new experiences with ease.
Reason: You experience confidence from your practical abilities, sensory engagement, and the knowledge that you can handle new challenges and environments.
Message: Confidence tells you that your hands-on skills and willingness to try new things are valuable, encouraging you to take on more experiential challenges.
Example: You might feel confident when leading a group activity, trying a new recipe successfully, or planning and executing an adventurous outing.
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Definition: For experiential designs, fear is the anticipation of failure, discomfort, or the inability to fully engage in new experiences and hands-on activities.
Experience: You feel fear when facing new challenges that require hands-on skills you haven't mastered, when entering unfamiliar sensory environments, or when worrying about missing out on experiences.
Reason: You experience fear because unpredictability and potential failure threaten your sense of competence and your desire for full sensory engagement.
Message: Fear tells you to prepare thoroughly, seek to understand new experiences, and plan strategically to mitigate risks and uncertainties.
Example: You might feel fear when trying a new adventure sport for the first time, worrying about whether you can handle the sensory and physical demands.
Unique Emotions for Experiential Designs
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Definition: Deep connection is the profound emotional bond and understanding shared with others, characterized by genuine empathy, intimacy, and a sense of unity.
Experience: You experience deep connection when engaging in meaningful conversations, sharing vulnerable moments, or simply being present with someone on a significant level.
Reason: You experience deep connection because it fulfills the innate human need for intimacy and belonging, fostering a sense of being understood and valued.
Message: Deep connection encourages you to be open and authentic in your relationships, to listen actively, and to cultivate empathy and understanding with others.
Example: You might feel a deep connection during a heartfelt discussion with a friend, while comforting someone in distress, or when experiencing a moment of shared joy or sorrow.
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Definition: Joyful playfulness is the lighthearted and spontaneous enjoyment of activities that bring laughter and a carefree sense of fun.
Experience: You experience joyful playfulness when engaging in playful banter, participating in games, or enjoying lighthearted activities with others.
Reason: You experience joyful playfulness because it brings a sense of freedom and delight, allowing you to escape from daily stresses and simply enjoy the moment.
Message: Joyful playfulness encourages you to embrace your inner child, to find humor and joy in everyday life, and to spread happiness through playful interactions.
Example: You might feel joyful playfulness while playing a game with friends, making up silly stories with children, or dancing around the living room to your favorite music.
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Definition: Harmonious tolerance is the calm and accepting attitude towards differences in opinions, beliefs, and behaviors, fostering peaceful coexistence and mutual respect.
Experience: You experience harmonious tolerance when encountering diverse perspectives, navigating conflicts, or embracing the uniqueness of others.
Reason: You experience harmonious tolerance because it helps maintain peaceful and respectful relationships, even amidst differences, promoting understanding and cooperation.
Message: Harmonious tolerance encourages you to approach differences with an open mind, to practice patience and understanding, and to value diversity in all its forms.
Example: You might feel harmonious tolerance when engaging in discussions with people who have differing viewpoints, adapting to a new cultural environment, or working through disagreements in a respectful manner.
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Definition: Ecstatic wonder is a profound and overwhelming feeling of awe and amazement, often experienced in response to extraordinary beauty, scale, or novelty.
Experience: You experience ecstatic wonder when witnessing a breathtaking natural phenomenon, exploring an awe-inspiring location, or encountering something unexpectedly magnificent.
Reason: You experience ecstatic wonder because it heightens your sense of the extraordinary, allowing you to appreciate the vastness and beauty of the world.
Message: Ecstatic wonder encourages you to seek out moments that take your breath away, to appreciate the extraordinary in the everyday, and to cultivate a sense of childlike wonder.
Example: You might feel ecstatic wonder while standing on the edge of the Grand Canyon, observing a rare astronomical event, or experiencing a powerful artistic performance.
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Definition: Serendipitous delight is the joy and pleasure that arise from unexpected, fortunate discoveries or experiences.
Experience: You experience serendipitous delight when stumbling upon a hidden gem, unexpectedly meeting someone inspiring, or finding something valuable by chance.
Reason: You experience serendipitous delight because it brings unexpected joy and satisfaction, making life feel magical and full of surprises.
Message: Serendipitous delight encourages you to embrace the unpredictable nature of life, to be open to new experiences, and to find joy in the unexpected.
Example: You might feel serendipitous delight when discovering a charming café on a stroll, bumping into an old friend in an unexpected place, or finding a book that perfectly matches your interests in a second-hand shop.
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Definition: Peaceful contentment is a deep sense of satisfaction and tranquility, often experienced when feeling at one with the present moment and free from desire or stress.
Experience: You experience peaceful contentment when enjoying a quiet moment in nature, meditating, or engaging in a fulfilling hobby.
Reason: You experience peaceful contentment because it brings a sense of harmony and balance, allowing you to appreciate life as it is without the need for more.
Message: Peaceful contentment encourages you to find joy in simple pleasures, to be present, and to cultivate inner peace and gratitude.
Example: You might feel peaceful contentment while watching a sunset, sipping tea in a cozy nook, or reading a good book on a rainy day.
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Definition: Exploratory excitement is the heightened energy and enthusiasm that accompanies the act of discovering new places, ideas, or activities.
Experience: You experience exploratory excitement when planning a journey to an uncharted destination, delving into an unfamiliar subject, or trying out a new hobby.
Reason: You experience exploratory excitement because it fuels your passion for exploration and the thrill of venturing into the unknown.
Message: Exploratory excitement encourages you to pursue new experiences with an open heart, to be curious, and to find joy in the journey of discovery.
Example: You might feel exploratory excitement when setting off on a road trip with no set itinerary, exploring a foreign city, or diving into a new technology or scientific concept.
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Definition: Reflective nostalgia is the bittersweet emotion of longing for past experiences that were deeply meaningful or joyous, coupled with a thoughtful appreciation for those moments.
Experience: You experience reflective nostalgia when reminiscing about past adventures, reliving happy memories, or revisiting places that hold sentimental value.
Reason: You experience reflective nostalgia because revisiting cherished memories allows you to appreciate the richness of your past experiences and reflect on how they have shaped you.
Message: Reflective nostalgia encourages you to honor your memories, cherish the lessons and joy from past experiences, and use them as a source of comfort and inspiration.
Example: You might feel reflective nostalgia when looking through old photographs, sharing stories from a memorable trip, or returning to a place that was significant in your past.